Let's be honest here. When I started this blog I never meant for anyone I knew to find it, let alone read it. Oh sure I knew strangers might stumble across it, yet I also figured that if they did it would be because they had typed something into their search engine that brought them to my site to begin with. Ergo it was quite possible that 1.) the things I am blogging about might actually inform them of something they may be struggling with, and/or 2.) may make said person realize they are not alone in whatever hidden illness battle they might be waging. But as time went by I had a few people wanting updates on me and given one of my friends had already found this blog (hey Beth, my fellow yarn hoor--what up?!!), I thought it couldn't hurt to share it with a select few. Now, I can count on one hand the number of people I've let into this inner circle of mine. Each time I give out the link to this blog I always feel a bit hesitant. This is a place that I consider very private. I am not one to bitch about my health as incessantly as I do here, especially not to my friends, but this is my one outlet to do so. Of course, if my friends ask me questions I will answer them, however I often don't get into a lot of detail and/or let them know what it's really like. There's no reason for this except that I don't want to bore anyone with the gory details nor make it seem like these illnesses are my life. Because they aren't. I have no qualms sharing with anyone certain aspects of what I have. To me, knowledge is power. By sharing I am potentially helping someone figure out why their ALT's and AST's are high. Or that lung problem that seems to run in their family? Maybe that's A1AD. The bone pain they're dealing with? I get it...I deal w/it too. So why would I not want everyone to know about this blog? Simple. I get that I come across here as if A1AD and arthritis are my LIFE. My ONLY life. And that couldn't be further from the truth. Yes, I have focused on it a lot (i.e. this blog) by researching, reading, seeing specialists, and going through the motions. Yet I am many other things than just a person with hidden illnesses. I am a wife. A mother. A dog owner. A friend. A knitter. A photographer. A website designer. A coffee lover. A cook. A lover of movies. A book reader. A writer. And the list can go on and on. I have three other blogs in addition to this one. I have a knitting blog, a photography blog, and my blog on my MySpace page. Each one shows a different facet of my life and yet none of them define who I truly am.
People who know me understand this. They know that while I may talk about my problems when they ask how things are going, that I am not all consumed by it. It is not who I am. It's just a part of who I am. Just as the other things I listed above make up the person that is me--A1AD, G6PD, Arthritis, etc. are all just pieces that help form a whole. The illnesses are nothing I can get rid of. Nothing I can ignore. Nothing I can truly change no matter what I do. They just simply...are. Believe me, I've tried. And at times I still try. I would love nothing more than to go back to my days of no pain, no bone crushing fatigue, no worrying about when my liver or lungs are going to fail me completely, no drugs, no nothing but good health. I can't count how many times I have pushed myself pretending to be something I no longer am and paid for it dearly. Yet I will always be that person. I will always do everything within my power to lead as normal of a life as I can. But with this I have learned that I can't do it all. That is not a bad thing. I have also learned that I have to prioritize my life. Again, this is good. As much as I loved my wedding & event decorating company when I bought it, I started to resent it towards the end. Working as hard as I did had serious consequences on my body and I had to admit this to myself, and let it go. We could've kept the business. We could've kept on, me pushing myself, Ryan and my dad working two jobs, the kids losing out on weekends, but we certainly COULD have kept doing it. I just didn't want to. And there was no point to it. So I let it go. I prioritized my life and put my family and my health first. These illnesses forced me to do it. There was no sticking my head in the sand and pretending they didn't exist. My body refused to allow that to happen. Instead of fighting it I decided to listen. That is not always easy. Not when listening means accepting that your life will never again be the way it was. Yet I have been here before. When I got pregnant...when I had my son...when I got married...when we had our daughter...moved to Oregon...and so forth. Each time my life changed, sometimes dramatically, and each change had it's own challenges and rewards. With them I grew wiser, stronger, and learned a lot. As crazy as it sounds, what I have gone through over the past two years has taught me quite a bit. It's forced me to be more patient, to be more understanding, and to take better care of myself. Conversely it has also taken away certain parts of myself that I loved, albeit took for granted, and made my question how I can continue to go through life in the shape I'm in now. It has made me feel alone. Very alone. Writing about it here as given me an outlet to get all the things I keep from people on the outside world out of my inner bottle. This blog allows me to look back and recall what symptoms I've had, when my last flare up was, if there is any common thread between flares, what drugs I've been on, and anything else that deals with the craziness that is my life. I do not share a lot of other things that go on in my life simply because I have never felt that this was the blog to do so in. Nor have I talked a lot about my health issues on my other blogs. It may come up at times, in small amounts, but to me my other blogs serve a different purpose. At times they cross, as is a given, yet each one serves it's created intention--for me to share whatever the blog is about with other people.
Last night I did the finger stick test for the Alpha-1 Phenotype test. Part of the paperwork had a long questionnaire regarding your feelings about health, tests, and whatnot. One of the questions had to do with preferring to know if you have this deficiency vs. not knowing. I, of course, prefer to know. It gives me a sense of control in an otherwise uncontrolled situation. I can learn about it, find doctors that actually know about it, and possibly prolong my liver and lungs longer than I could if I didn't know about it. By acknowledging it I am also agreeing to get in the drivers seat and take over. Sometimes I will be in the passenger seat...going along for the ride...but sometimes I'll be taking the lead and taking steps to better my health. Would I love to go along for the rest of my life and deny that I have A1AD or arthritis or any of my other weird disorders? Of course I would! Especially if it worked. Unfortunately it doesn't. So I will continue to share my journey and what I learn along the way on here despite my misgivings and thoughts of completely deleting this entire blog for fear of giving the wrong impression that I am allowing these things to control my life. The last thing I want readers to think is that I sit around all day and night feeling sorry for myself, not living my life, and ONLY thinking about my health. That couldn't be further from the truth. Despite being in constant pain and having a black cloud above my head (i.e. the fear that my liver will conk out at any given time), I am doing my best to keep pushing, keep battling, and enjoying what I have around me. I have good days and I have bad days. And although I talk about not much else than my health on this blog, rest assured that I am doing so for a reason! ;o)
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